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I'm constantly comparing Myself to others

Sandie wrote:

I have poor self esteem I'm constantly comparing myself to other girls things like she is so much prittyer then me or   I'm so much fatter then her. It is makeing me depressed.

I know the teen years are insecure but Im crying at night. Is that normal?  

Thankyou for your help.

Dear Sandie

Sadly, crying at night is much more common than you'd think, and so is comparing yourself - negatively - to others.

There's no simple solution, as I suspect you realise, but here's a couple of tips:

  • If you can't help doing this, do it fairly - look at the good things about you, as well as the bad.
  • If you can't help doing this, do it thoroughly - make a list of the 'bad points' and consider if they are real, and what you can do about it. 'Prettier' is a pretty meaningless term, isn't it? And it's much more about smiling and attitude than physical things (think about it). If you have a weight problem, do something about it; ask for help and advice. But weigh yourself first and check that the problem exists.
  • Work on the Good Things; for example, the way you you walk, the way you behave, the way you treat others is entirely in your control, and those are the kind of things that make you a good person to know.

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