Who am I kidding, it's called alcoholism!

Dee wrote:

Some men just don't grow-up.

My husband of 22 years is sweet, caring and loving. He works fulltime and always brings home his paycheque. He also stops every day and buys a six pack of beer and spends the rest of his day drinking and watching T.V. and acting like another teenager.

He has always been like this, however, I just can't stand it anymore.

I hate being the one responsible for everything, and I mean everything. I know I have enabled him to be like this, I have reached out to his family and asked them to speak to him about his drinking. They seem to want to act like it is my problem.

I don't know what to do, should I leave and see if he changes? I don't really want to move as I don't like being alone or making everyone upset for my own happiness.

What happens if I move and I find out that it was me that caused him to be like that.

Who am I kidding, it's called alcoholism, plain and simple.

Dear Dee

It almost certainly is alcoholism, and some would say you are lucky that life is merely boring and unsatisfying ... but that is no consolation to you.

I don't think you can blame yourself for allowing him to drift into this ... it sounds as if he has done nothing to help himself.

But 22 years is a long time, and clearly he does not see the problem.Try to get him to go to couple counselling; if he won't, maybe counselling for you will help you to face life without him - if that seems to be the only option.

But I suspect it's worth trying to get him to move forward before you totally give up.

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