For the past month or so
now, my girlfriend and I have been talking about oral sex. At first, I seemed
completely open to the idea. As time progressed, I started to develop some qualms
as I officially realized that it was against my religion. (I'm a devout Roman
Catholic, although somewhat liberal).
Today, I made a decision and decided
that I did not want to have oral sex with her YET. She blew up and said that I
had built up the excitement of this moment of intimacy with her, and today, I
just took that all away. Plus, she said she didn't agree with my reasons for not
wanting to do it, one of which were that I had decided that I did not want my
future children to have oral sex when they were my age, (I'm a 15 year old boy)
and so I did not want to be a hypocrite. Another reason was that I was too young
and I just didn't want to do it yet. However, she's still mad at me.
have been together for eight months now and this hurts me; that my girlfriend
can't respect my decisions and always has to challenge them. (she is Protestant,
I am Catholic) I understand that there will always be some disagreements in what
we believe in, but I don't want her to keep challenging my beliefs ever single
time they conflict with hers.
Not only is it tiring and annoying, it makes
me wonder if our relationship will last much longer if this continues, as it also
hurts me on the inside. I was just wondering if you had any advice on how to deal
You make a deal, You change your
mind, and she's in the wrong for daring to disagree?
May I remind you that she's
your girlfriend, not your possession?
By all means stick to your beliefs; but
she is just as entitled to hers. Where do you get off with this assumption that
your beliefs are 'better', and she is not holding her own beliefs, but 'challenging
Maybe you'd be wiser and happier finding someone who agrees with your
Then you'd not need to bully them or whine when they had a thought of