I have a crush on my friend
OK, I know the following
story may look really familiar to you, but I would really appreciate it if you
would answer this specific problem. I have looked for stories that seemed the
same, but I was not able to find it exactly as mine, some looked like it, but
they weren´t the same.
I'm a 13 year old boy and Ii have a crush
on my friend, which is a girl, a gorgeous girl. I haven't had a girlfriend since
I was really little, I haven´t ever kissed and I don´t like that.
I am not desperate, but I want a girlfriend, I want to hug her everytime I see
her and I want to kiss her when I want to, I want to have someone that likes me.
I am kind of popular but I can remember any girl liking me, and this is
because i am a friend of all the girls, but boys still like me as a friend, but
i spend most of my time with girls. The thing is that I had a very big crush on
my girl about two years ago, and she said she loved me as a friend. I sent her
many love cards and looked COMPLETELY pathetic, so I tried to forget her, but
I was unable. Sometimes, I thought i liked other girls, but I really wasnt. This
girl started dating a guy but it didnt work out, and then she started liking another
boy, but this one didnt like her back. Then she said she liked me but then didnt
want to go out with me, i think that was just to forget the boy she liked.
im kind of sure I still like her, two years later, but i think she likes another
boy. Everytime we talk about how I liked her, she says she should have given me
a chance instead of going with the boyfriend I talked about before. I am pathetic,
I dont know how to flirt well, all of my friends (guys) have been liked by girls
even if they are ugly and not nice, all of them have french kissed, all of them
know how to make a girl like them, and all of them have had girlfriends, serious
Girls say that they don't like me because I'm their friend, and it
is strange for them. Something I really dont like is that my brother has always
been the boy girls LOVE, he can make a girl love him in NO TIME, it really pisses
me off. WHY CANT I GET A GIRLFRIEND? WHY? IM NOT UGLY, IM REALLY NICE TO THEM,
I KNOW HOW THEY THINK, I KNOW WHAT THEY LIKE, I WOULD BE PERFECT!
I do with all this mess, am I kind of crazy? I wait for your response faithfully,
I feel your pain - none of us have been
exactly where you are right now, but many of us have been somewhere close. And
it's not nice.
And, worse still, there's no way I heard of to make it easier.
One day it'll come right, is all.
I can give you a few thoughts, but you decide
if they'll help.
1. Don't worry about what the boys say, most of them are
boasting, and so what? It isn't a race.
2. If the girls see you as a friend,
that's good. Friends last much longer than grlfriends, and being a friend
is halfway there.
3. Having a girlfriend is not the same as owning a person
- you WON'T be able to kiss her when you want - unless she does too. Sounds obvious,
but respecting girls is so important. They won't thank you - but you'll always
have an advantage over the other guys. You'll be the guy that notices their new
dress, you'll be the guy that is interested in what they think. You'll be the
guy they trust. Make it so. That matters. You'll thank me one day!
less about what people say or might say - and think more about this boyfriend-girlfriend
thing. What's it all about? Why do you want it so bad? Why this girl? And if she
isn't interested, why are you making a fool of yourself? - keep the friendship,
and drop the rest. Ok it hurts - but it won't hurt forever. Being silly about
it will hurt for much longer.