Fight Happens and I'm Blamed!
Over the weekend,
I went out with my six sister in laws (cousin sisters to my husband), we ended
up going to a nightclub, which I originally thought we were just going to a sports
bar, play pool for a couple of hours and then back to my husbands cousins
house (where we would all meet up with my husband and the rest of the family).
closing time, the sisters ending up dancing with these guys, really dancing provocatively,
etc. And by the time we were leaving the club, I had recognized one of the guys
they were dancing with he was an ex-boyfriend of an old girlfriend of mine.
We small talked, caught up on old times, and he andhis friends ended up following
us to the sisters apartment complex. Before reaching the apartment, we stopped
at the store, between the sisters, they had gotten the last beer sales and we
all got to her place; and between 2 of his cousin sisters and 2 of those guys
they got into a pulling/shoving match over whose beer belong to who. During
the shoving match, the beer fell on the sidewalk, broken glass everywhere, and
before you knew it, there was a fight between all the cousin sisters and these
There was blood, punching, kicking, yelling, screaming, and cuts
involved. One of the cousin sisters, ended up with a gash to her head from a broken
beer bottle. The police, ambulance, apartment security, neighbors everyone
eventually came and reports were made; the 2 guys ended up arrested for aggravated
assault and other charges.
The next day, after all the stories were told;
my other sister in law, married into the family as well, had told me off to the
side that all the cousin sisters were blaming ME for what had happened. They were
saying that because I knew these guys, that this fight was all my fault. We have
an upcoming Family Reunion with them, and Im upset over hearing that this
whole incident is being blamed on me. I told my husband that none of this wouldve
happened if the girls wouldve just let that beer go, and if one of them
hadnt thrown the beer bottle at the guy, and that they shouldnt have
been shoving at them anyway.
But thats the end of it now, that according
to the cousin sisters, it was my fault this whole thing happened. What should
I do with this situation and with our future Family Reunion, go or not go?? (I
wasnt involved in the fighting, I watched the whole thing happen standing
at the side with another one of their sisters; she and I watched the whole thing
Oh, come on!
I'm not going to get
deep in the entrails of a drunken fight - and nor should you. It's over, and the
less fuss you make, the sooner the dust will settle. making an issue of it will
affect family relationships for years.
Do you really want that?
that you think they are drunken trailer trash, and they think you're Uptight Annie
- but it really, really doesn't matter - unless you are looking for trouble. Are