My mom controls my life and sonJeni wrote: I have a problem
... please help. I came out from an abusive husband and I sent my son to live
with my mom for a year. My mom kept him when he was 10 years and I always
kept in touch with him.Well,now the problem that I'm having is that my mom is
very controlling to me and my son. She doesnt let me be a mom. My mom is 70 years
old and she is very manipulative and she even took me to court to take my son
away from me. She use to live me and I had so much problems because when I try
to discipline my son she would stop me. She says that I'm a bad mom for leaving
him with her when he was 10 years but I had too. I fear for his life because of
my abusive husband. My mom never use to be so controlling. She is so over
protective over my son and she is trying to take him away from me and raise him.
Right now my son is 15 years and he is spoilt and sometimes he is disrespectful.
She has tolded him that if I try to be mean in anyway to call cops on me. I love
my mother but she is getting out of control. She wants to take my son and control
my life. Is my mother sick or have a mental breakdown. How can I stop her? I tolded
her already that my son has to to follow my displine because I'm his mom but she
doesnt listen. She tends to override every decision that I make and I'm tired
of fighting with her. What can I do or say to her that she can understand. Thank
You Please help? Dear Jeni Your mother's power, your son's insecurity
and your guilt all go back to when you placed your son with your mom. You did
not have to leave him with your mom - you could have left with him - and you know
it. You cannot turn back the clock - you did it, and you have to live with that
forever. But realise how much this hurt your son. But the only way you can put
it right, is simply by being a good mom. If you do it right, your son will learn
to respect you; if you do it right, your mom can call the cops until she's tired,
and it won't help her. Stop obsessing about your mom; stop obsessing about your
previous mistakes. What matters is that your son grows up to be a good man;
that's your job. A good start might be to move further away from your mom ... | 
