Old Friend May Steal My Thunder
been the most confident person. I didnt completely lack it, but there was
a shortage of it in my life. This was especially during secondary school. I went
from knowing everyone in my primary school to being a needle in a haystack.
I made friends but I generally kept myself to myself.
I did envy
someone, who actually happened to be my friend. Everyone liked him and
he seemed to have the confidence that I wish I had. Admittedly, he wasnt
perfect, but he had a charm that I admired and so did everyone else.
worked hard with my confidence since school. Ive learned to trust myself,
believe in myself and its been a long slog Im still
not totally there, but Im so much better than previously.
friend contacted me the other week to tell me that hes probably going to
be working at the same place I was. Its really gotten to me its
almost like hes turning up on my turf a place where I
feel comfortable and Im able to display my confidence.
quite explain it correctly but Im trying, its like I know hes
going to steal my thunder Im worried that Ill return to being
that 15 year old who sat there in a shy manner.
How can I deal with my jealousy?
How can I stop myself reverting back to my old school days?
The good news is that you are 100% aware this is your problem, not
his. The bad news is you think nothings changed since school - and yet you tell
me you've changed. So has he.
And he's entitled to a little nervous about the
new job and new people. So help him.
Your job is to be a friend to him. Make
him welcome, introduce him to good people; tell them what a great guy he is.
works best when you think about helping the other person, and not when you are
only thinking of yourself.