I just cant seem to open up
found it very tough to open up to people. Ive had a shell, which is protected
by a force-field.
When I was 16, my father died. I noticed this force field
get stronger. Id shaved my hair off, to look more aggressive Id
shut most, if not all my friends out. Id developed depression.
has effected all my close relationships with people, either romantically, or platonically.
I really find it hard to open up to people. Ive never actually told someone
how I feel about them. Ive never plucked up the courage to ask someone out
on a date. Its really gotten to me recently. Im 23, and Ive
felt more and more lonelier despite being surrounded by people. I just
cant seem to open up.
Recently, theres someone at work whod
I really like to date. Weve spoken and there seems to be a fairly good rapport.
But Im dying to ask her out. I just cant.
Do you have any advice
about how I can improve my situation?
You are here,
asking for a date is way up there. So what's in between?
Maybe it's getting
a group together for bowling or whatever. Maybe it's ask her something that isn't
quite a date - chat with her a few more times, and see if you can think of some
'safe' meeting outside work.
But nothing's totally safe; you have to take that
risk - what's the worst that can happen? She can say 'no thanks'; and she might.
So then you'll know.
What's killing you is not knowing if she'll say yes or
not. Make it a safe meeting for her, and 'no' is less likely. Either way, if you've
got to know her a little before you ask, she'll not be unpleasant about it - why
would she be?