I've had a crush for three years

Neera wrote:

I am in high school. I've had a crush on this guy in my grade for 3 years now. I can't seem to tell him about it. I think that if i do, it will ruin my friendship.

We aren't really good friends, but we talk occasionally. I haven't been able to get my mind off of him. I can't focus as much on school, and I've stopped doing homework, or at least I don't do all of it.

My friends say I've been depressed and that I should talk to someone. I don't know what to do. I am afraid that I will tell him about my feelings and not get any affection back.

To tell the truth, I dont even know why I like him! Any advice?

Dear Neera

Two things come to mind, first, stop obsessing about a dream, and do something about it. I'm not suggesting that you tell him, why would you? But you say you are not good friends. Why not?

Work on the friendship, maybe you'll find out why you like him.

Either way, he's just a guy. Why let him interfere with your school work? How silly is that?

If something happens, it happens. If not - hey, it's no big deal. Look at all the other guys you are missing. Or is that the idea?