Ashamed of my parents
Please read this
through; this is a real situation and not a joke.
My parents are very, very
unclean people. They don't wash their hands after using the bathroom. They only
take a shower once a week. My mom's a stroke victim in a wheelchair, so she has
to abide by whatever my dad wants. Their house is absolutely filthy and every
time I go over there, I end up with itching on my legs and sometimes with a rash
on my arms. I've even had trouble with breathing because I think there is mold
there. They also have ringworm. They don't open up windows or anything. And, the
house smells BAD. They do not even bathe the dog. They even put their dishes on
the floor for the animals to eat out of and then don't even wash the dishes with
I love my parents and want to honor them, but I can't even get myself
to go there anymore. My son agrees with me about the condition of their house,
etc. My dad went through three homecare agencies and they dropped him because
he was being too difficult. He says that if somebody thinks the house is too dirty,
then they don't have to come there. What do I do? They're my parents. I feel stuck.
Were they always this way, or has something
happened? Have things got out of control because they cannot keep up with cleaning,
or are they depressed, or what?
Have you ever offered to help them clean up?
What about brothers and sisters?
You say you feel stuck, but I'm really not
sure if you mean embarassed - or helpless. Because it's help they need, not condemnation.