Stuck with porn, sex ... and no commitment

Kaylee wrote:

I have never wrote to anyone for advice so please bear with me. I've been with my boyfriend for six years, and living with him for four.

Everyday he's watching hustler tv, after the kids go to bed. When he wants sex he always expects me to dress up in stilletos and lingerie like the porn actresses. Before I used to on the drop of a dime ... now - well let's just say, I can't be bothered.

My point to him is I don't feel that our sex life should be ALL fantasy, not everyday. I'm starting to wonder if he's got a sexual problem going on.

Also I feel that after being with someone for six years ... well, piss or get off the pot! He doesn't seem to want to commit, so all of these issues are coming to a head and I truely am undecided on what to do!?!

Yes I would like your true advice. About two years ago he put a engagement ring on my finger and told me that one day he'd like to marry me than turned around four months later and said that he only bought me the ring because he felt like it, nothing less nothing more.

Talk about hurt - after my family threw a big party for us!

Please help I need some advice!

Dear Kaylee

I wonder how you've stuck with him for so long - it seems he's always been self-centered and never really bothered to commit. My guess is the ring was after you put pressure on him - and he backed off as soon as he could.

Why should he change?

You might force him into marriage, but, of course it'll be a bad marriage.

Marriage only really works between two consenting adults. If he doesn't want to marry you, then there's no point. Anmd if he wanted to, you'd have heard rumors by now.

It ain't going to happen, is it?