I'm a 23 year old male who has yet to
have sex. I have never really had a girlfriend.
It's not that I'm unattractive
or don't want to. It's all I think about. I am shy, and in social situations I
tense up and look for the quickest way out.
I don't know what to do. Any
advise would be greatly appreciated.
First, stop worrying
- you are not alone.
Second, unless you choose to go to a prostitute, sex comes
second. Friendship comes first.
By all means think about sex (most men do,
constantly) but spend a little time and effort going where you might meet women
socially; doing things that enable you to have conversations.
Most of all,
simply notice the women you speak to.
Notice that they are people, not
just sex objects, notice that they have interests, concerns and needs, just as
And notice that they don't bite.
Be a friend; the sex can wait
(and it will).