How do I save him from beer
I have been married
to my husband for two years now. Together for four years. We have a 18 month old
But this still does not keep my husband from drinking. He will
take our last dollar to buy beer. He has already had one dui. If I try to keep
him from driving I am "controlling" I am really only looking out for
I want a husband who wants to be a family man but I feel he does not
want the same things we fight all the time anymore. I know if he would get help
for his drinking we would have a wonderful marriage I love him with all my heart
but I don't know how much more I can take some of the fights end up very physical.
On both of our parts.
I know I am very stubborn and I always say things
I don't mean when I am angry but he just makes me so upset when he picks his friends
and drinking over his family. Is it something wrong with me that we fight all
the time he says I am always on his case. And that it is my fault that he drinks
all the time?
I have tried ignoring the problem and not saying anything
to him and that doesn't work all that ends up happening is all that built up angry
comes out all at once. How can I help him and if not how do I find the courage
to leave him I have no family no job and no where to go here? Please help me.
Are you sure he's drinking "too much"?
(Really the last dollar?)
Are you sure he cannot control it?
Does he refuse
If they are all yesses, then you have no option but to leave him,
for the child's sake, as well as your own.
I'd say stay if - and only if -
he recognises there's a problem, and agrees to get help. Sounds like you both
need counselling, if this marriage is too survive and thrive.
It may be that
there are things you need to change; perhaps you have an anger problem. Perhaps
But that, from what you've said, is not the immediate issue, if
it's an issue at all. The problem is the alcohol. And if he won't face that, you
cannot help him, at this time.
Look around, see what help there may be, because
you will need it, inside or outside of the marriage.
Think of the child. Good