I want to be his friend again
I want to say i'm sorry, need advice.
Well I met this guy five years ago and we were really good friends we
would always hang out and he would drive out of his way for me. We never
fought and we liked to be around each other I basically called him my
Well two years ago I left him hanging. I met some other guy, got drunk
and ended up with him. I didn't call my friend because the guy I meet
was really controlling and abusive he wouldn't let me call anyone or do
anything. I was trapped.
Then I got pregnant and didn't find out until 4 months later. I ended
up moving with him bacause I didn't have any where else to go. He beat
me up more and more and finally kicked me out leaving me hanging.
I eventually moved back with my mom and left the abusive guy. I was there
stuck pregnant with the abusives baby and ended up keeping her.
Now that its been so long I really miss my best friend. We hang around
the same people but we never talk to each other anymore.
The only thing is though, is that we have gotten drunk a couple times
and ended up messing around. We have never had sex before and we were
going to once but I said we should wait. Well 1 month ago we were messing
around and we were going to do the deed and he said I have to wait.
You have to remember we never talk to each other unless we are secretly
alone. I really think I broke his heart and I am really sorry about what
I did and I want to be his friend again, I don't really care about us
having sex but I care about him . what does it mean that he wants to wait?
And how can tell him I am sorry for what I did and tell him that i want
our friendship back?
Do you really like this guy, or the fact that you can use him until something
more exciting comes along. You say you want to be his friend, but you
are still dishonest; you tell me that you couldn't phone - that's not
true, is it? However controlling this man came to be, he wasn't controlling
from day one; but still you could find it in your heart to call your Best
Friend - and even now you cannot be honest about it.
Put yourself in his shoes, and ask yourself why he should ever trust
Even now, given your shame of talking to him in public, he has turned
down the opportunity to use you as you have used him. And would again.
You cannot turn back the clock, you cannot have what you threw away so
callously. But you can start again, and build a new friendship - if that's
what you really want, if he's who you really want. And if you are prepared
to be honest.
But if you just want him because being a single mother is a bore, then
leave him alone.