Marriage in trouble?

Dymanda wrote:

My husband and I have been together for 7 yrs, married for 2. For the first time since we've been together I have found myself thinking about ending the relationship, but for no concrete reasons.

I love him completely, he's a wonderful partner and I can't come up with any kind of list of things that I don't like about him or the relationship that is making me feel this way, but the feelings are very strong and I don't know where they're coming from.

I feel like it is simply a feeling of unrest in general, and it frightens me terribly. I don't know if this is just a matter of normal doubts, a phase that will pass, or if it's something deeper that's not clear to me yet.

We've talked about it a bit, but I'm unsure of how much to share with him because I don't want to put him in a position where he's constantly wondering if I'm going to suddenly leave.

I'm talking about it a lot with my therapist, but I want to hear from others who may have felt this way. .

DearDymanda

This may be a little about expectations. You've said a little about the 'good' things about the relationship - especially that he is open to discussion on your anxieties.

You've said nothing about the 'bad' things. No relationship is perfect, there must be aspects of the relationship that are less than perfect.

That doesn't mean the end, but they can't be fixed if they are not addressed. Don't be frightened to think long and hard about what is wrong, because chances are that, together, you can sort the problems.

But unfaced issues have a habit of growing. Do it together, if you can.