My Sister's Ex
I was friends with a guy I'll call Steve for about two years. At that
time I started to notice there were a lot of things in his personality
that I didn't care for. He was immature, bossy, a know-it-all when he
didn't know much of anything, and at times downright mean.
I started seeing him less and less and then along came my sister. She
got into a relationship with him. The things I didn't like about him seemed
to get worse over the course of their relationship. It got to the point
that I couldn't stand him and often avoided my sister in an attempt to
avoid him. The relationship came to an end after about a year and a half
and frankly, I was thrilled.
After about a month of her being single she confided to me that he had
not only cheated on her but had also been physically abusive. I was infuriated.
I had been through an abusive relationship myself and thought I had seen
the signs in him but put them aside as paranoia.
The point is, it's been about six months since they broke up and I just
got a call from her house-from him. After giving him a few choice words
I found out that she was perfectly ok with him being there.
I don't know what to do. I honestly hate this person. If this continues
and they become a couple again I really don't think I can take it. I think
I will have to end any relationship I have with my sister. What else can
I do? He makes me crazy with anger and rage. I don't thnk I can be civilized
around him after finding out everything he did to her. Please help.
I think you are being a little bit selfish. This isn't about you, and
has not been for a long time. It's about your sister. It seems to me that
ending your relationship with her is more punishment than she deserves.
I fact I'm not really convinced you need to punish her at all. Why do
you wish to add to her troubles?
You might even consider being supportive - if you can see beyond your