Lost in Rehab.
I really need to ask some advice. I went out with this guy for about
8 months we got engaged and things were really looking good, every
I have a 2 and a half year old son and he also really cares about
my fiancee. He is in rehab at the moment and will come out on the
3rd of March.
The story is we meet and he persued me then finally I let go and
got involved with him. Then I moved in with him and his folks he promised
me the world. We got engaged my son started calling him dad. My son
and I went on holiday for 1 week. My fiancee went off the rails and
ended up in rehab.
He hadn't been there even 3 weeks when he phoned and asked if I'd
go in, as he needed to speak to me.
He told me he never ever loved me, he manipulated me in to believing
that he did. He didn't want to get engaged but he did and then he
just played along with he is being so hard about everything and doesnt
want to talk to me or see me again, my son and I have to move out
of his parents house by the time he comes out of rehab. He also says
he can't live lies any more and he did it just to keep his parents
I just need to know is it possible for some body to manipulate you
into believing that they love you and staying with the person they
have no feelings for at all for 8 months or is it just rehab getting
to him I really don't understand if so why did he do all this please
help me as I can't accept this at all I think he's lying about everything
that he has told me.
First, accept that it's over, and be relieved he's told you now,
rather than later.
Second, The alarm bells should have rung when he first went into
rehab - I find it hard to believe he went from perfect to rehab in
a week - either you have not told me all - or, as he says, he's been
Third, Think of your child and the future. Learn from this and move
on. There are good men out there as well as bad - but you don't necessarily
need a man at this moment - and if you do, keep your eyes wide open.
Please Note: I am NOT a physician, and any
'health advice' should NOT be taken to be "Medical Advice"
- because it is not - my aim is to give you a few possibilities to be
thinking about, and some general 'common sense' advice - if my advice
says see a doctor, then see a doctor!