My Married Boyfriend

Sally wrote:

My boyfriend and I have been together for two and a half years. We love each other, but he will never leave his wife.

We have been fighting a lot lately, and although I don't want to be without him, his favorite thing to do is punish me for things he's done (i.e. nasty behavior, spiteful acts, etc.)

Am I crazy to try and work this out with the man I love or should I just split before my feelings are hurt any more?

Dear Sally,

You are with someone else's husband; now you are not the first, neither will you be the last. But, knowing he won't leave his wife (and why should he?), it seems weird that you've chosen such a total loser.

The whole point of using someone else's spouse is to get the pleasure, without the responsibility, and with the freedom to up and out if he messes you about.

You have chosen to let him use you for sex; you have the pain he's sparing his wife, with no future, and not the brains to move on.

You talk about love.

Whatever gave you that idea?

You don't love a man who abuses you, though you might pretend to.

He doesn't love you (wife? remember? wife.)

Wake up, Kiddo, and smell the compost.

Because that's all there is.