Love and Money
I just got a divorce after 8 years of marriage and two children. After
my husband moved out (before the divorce was over) I meet a wonderful,
caring, sincere man. A cousin of one of my best friends.
After our "secret" was out it caused a lot of problems with
friends and family that after five months finally began to fade. My very
best friend since school days kept warning me not to get so serious right
away but things just did all on their own. I know I love him and he loves
me but listening to my friends advice about slowing things down and maybe
seeing other people and dating for a while seemed logical.
She introduced me to a man, we went out a few times to dinner and had
such a good time. He too is a nice honest person. The problem is that
the first man lost his job a while ago, lives in a terrible neighborhood
with no way out, can't even afford to fix his car that he just smashed.
I know he doesn't have any money except from unemployment, no saving
account. Being that I own my own home, have a good job and mainly two
kids, this bothers me.
Is it right to take this in consideration? I'm trying to be practical
and I'm worrying about what my future would be like? I have explained
to him that I need some time away and it is killing him. I'm just afraid
that if I leave him I'll regret it and it will be too late, I'd have lost
What's the hurry? There's no law that says you have to commit to anyone,
and there's certauinly no need to rush.
Can't you stay friends?
If he's pushing you to make a decision, you need to ask why. What's
And if you feel forced to make a decision much, much too soon, then please
think of your kids; like it or not, you must protect their future before
you make hard-to-reverse decisons.
Far better to stop flapping and enjoy good friendships and a happy family.