Marriage On The Rocks?
I have been married for 24 great loving years 4 children, then out the
blue my wife decides she is no longer in love with me.
We are both 42 years of age, we both have never been involved with another
persons ever. I don't drink or beat my wife I am a very homely person,
I cook, I perform every day house old dutys around the home. But I have
have to admit I have been distant from my wife over the past year, spending
to much time on my PC and workin constant nights, but I am still very
much in love with my wife and it is hurting me so badly.
At the moment we have decided to live apart and see how her feelings
may change for me I have my doubts she ever will, she is being so distant
toward me not wanting me to see or call her. She says she needs space
but it is all getting to much for me I am not handling the situation very
well, my wife is in my thoughts every minute of the day it is very hard
to get on with my every day life, very, very hard .......
But what have you done about it?
While I can sympathize with you feeling sorry for yourself, and feeling
guilt about the past, that is not going to change anything.
It would probably help you to at least understand what went wrong; was
it really out of the blue, or had you been drifting apart for years?
Do you have any shared interests, or have you been living solo lives
since the kids stopped being small?
And do you really want her back? Is this guilt and loneliness - after
all, by your own admission, you didn't take a lot of notice of her - or
do you really care.
You need to talk with her; explain that you just want to understand if
it's really over, or if there's something you could do ... if she has
any wish to try, I'd suggest that the gapo is so big, that you'll need
some sort of counselling.
But first, think about what you really want - and, hey, why not think
about what she really wants, too?