I am a bisexual, and I like this girl from February till now... the worse
thing is that she's actually my classmate! That means I see her everyday.
And from what I asked, she's a bisexual. She knows that I'm one too.
We have this play-play "relationship" where I'm her "husband"
and she's my "wife". But she doesn't know the truth that I actually
take it seriously. One time, my friend had told her that I liked her,
and she said that she was very confused, and that she doesn't want to
lose this friendship.
Rumours have been spreading that she likes me and that I like her too(which
is true), and people think that we don't dare to confess anything. Other
classmates even tried to matchmake us together. And even after she knows
that I like her, she still acts normal, still treats me like her "husband",
and still flirts with me.
I tried to give her up many times, but I just couldn't, I see her face
everyday and talk to her everyday. I really cannot forget her. Please
help me ...
Regardless of sexual orientation, you cannot live out a relationship
in pretence - or though other people.
She's either interested or not, and only you and she can sort that out.
By talking sensibly to each other.
There is a risk - there's always a risk - that trying to move the relationship
on might destroy what you have. Which would be a shame.
So, minimise that risk.
- How sure are you about your own sexual stance?
- And how experienced?
- How sure of her sexual stance?
- And her experience?
- What clues that she wants more than friendship?
- How have you communicated that you want more?
- How did she react?
- How difficult has it become, involving other friends?
- Are you really prepared to risk your friendship?
And so on. The key question is probably:
- How real, how much fantasy?
Only you know the answers!