Jealous and Angry

Penny wrote:

Me and my husband have been together for 4 years and we have been married for 4 months. Ever since I can remember I have been incredibly jealous of everyone my husband comes in contact with. I am even jealous of his step-sister.

I have no idea why I have these feelings. I know that my husband would never do anything to hurt me, but I can't seem to get rid of these feelings. It is tearing us about because he can't do anything without me asking tons of questions and then getting upset. I don't even like him going to his mothers house.

It is getting out of control. I am trying to just ignore some of these feelings, or at least not tell my husband about them, but they always come back. What should I do?

Dear Penny

You have taken the first step, admitting that it is your problem.

The next step is to get help, and soon.

Personally, I'd recommend counselling, in a way that includes your husband.

Two reasons for this; first, he will know the extent of your problem - and your willingness to work through it.

Second, he will know that you are not blaming him for this - you have suggested that you give him a hard time - he needs to understand it is not 'personal'.