Phazed and confused
My Ex-girlfriend and I were together for almost two years and we had
our fights, but we really loved each other and tried to work it out.
We are on a break right now and I always thought a break meant other
people and no communication between her and I. She still calls me everyday
and tells me she miss me and loves me and that she knows I am the one
I feel the same way but I think the break is stupid and it causes more
What do you think will get us back together? I think her friends influence
her and she knows I don't like them.
I am too.
You don't say what these fights have been about, nor how you make peace;
I suspect you realise that they don't matter. What does matter is not
what you endlessly bicker about, but what is not discussed.
After two years, maybe you should address the future; perhaps one of
you has realised that?
Relationships start out with an almost telepathic agreement; easy to
forget that that wears off when there's serious issues to discuss ...
if you two cannot agree on what a break means (it means what you two agree
it means) then there's not really a lot of hope.
Also, when you choose a woman, her friends come for free, for good or
ill - live with it.
It's time you actually spoke to each other. What do you each want from
the relationship? Who sees it as permanent, and who doesn't?
After two years, you each know what you are taking on ... and you know
if that's what you want.
If you love her, talk to her. If you just cannot be bothered to move
on, then accept the situation as it is. And I'd say the same to her, I
Decision time, I suspect.