Children and In Laws
I have a daughter from a previous marriage who has been adopted by my
husband, he also has twins from a previous relationship and we have two
His mother consistantly treats the twins like they are royalty from her
actions to her financially purchasing them things, this is starting to
cause problems with my children and they dont want anything to do with
She also treats the ex-girlfriend better then me and we have had some
arguements over this but it seems to go nowhere now she is more supportive
of the x-girlfriend than she is of her own son.
I find this very hard to swallow since it hurts my husband. The ex-girfriend
makes twice what he makes and is in no way hurting for anything, but my
mother inlaw will be guilted into purchasing the twins new coats, clothes
Now my husband and my daughter wants to know why Grandma doesnt like
her as much, she is only five what do I tell her?
You obviously don't like the woman, but you must put that to one side
for the sake of the children.
The issue here is about honesty. Your husband adopted your daughter,
but his mother did not; the old bag is not, repeat not, your daughter's
grandmother. She has not shown any interest in the job, and clearly has
no interest in the job description!
Discuss all this with your husband, and come up with an agreement on
how this can be managed.
Start being honest; and when the old bag comes around, be elsewhere.
It's a large world, you'll find somewhere. Take your daughter somewhere
Never, ever, visit the old bag.
Don't tell the old bag what you are doing - until she asks. Then explain,
in words of one syllable, that there is nothing more evil on this planet
than an adult who treats one child as 'better' than another. She might
resent you - and, who knows, she might have good reason. But she has no
right to take it out on the children.