Is This Third Time Lucky?
Teri wrote:
I have been married twice and recently got engaged to be married for
the third time believe me I am really scared I don't know if this is normal
or what I'll tell you what is happening, recently I bumped into my exboyfriend
that I was in love with when I was in senior high school he was my first
love and I love him with all my heart but because of my stupidity I ended
up marrying another guy.
I had a child with my first husband and later got separated from him
and came back home while I was home I saw my ex boyfriend and yes I had
sex with him but he was married at the time.
We told each how we felt but them again nothing else happened I didn't
see him for 13 years and now 2 marriages later I bump into him again and
as soon as we see each other I feel that you know that feeling you have
when you are in love right in your stomach.
I felt so good to see him again we talked for ours we told each other
alot of things we told each other how we still felt (he also is going
through a bad marriage his wife recently cheated on him) and he is there
because of his kids.
Well anyway he told me he still loves and no matter what happens he will
always love and will be there for me if I ever need him. I told him the
same we cried and laughed together and now all I do is think about him
I can't get him out of my mind he asked me if I was in love with my fiance
and I told him that I loved the things that he did for me and how he treated
me and I know that no other man will do the things that my fiance does
for me.
I really don't want to hurt my fiance. I don't know what to do, before
I saw my exboyfriend J.L. I was already having doubts and now that I spoke
to J.L. it seems that I'm more in a doubt now..please help me....
Dear Teri,
I'm not clear what the problem is. You've never been able to tell the
difference between love and lust, and the way things are going, you never
will.
You've never been one to worry about betrayal and unfaithfulness (unless
it happens to you), so carry on.
If you have any decency, let your fiance go, and carry on.
One small note of caution: when you are young, sex and betrayal come
cheap. As you get to middle age, there's a price. And that price is the
ultimate, desolate loneliness of the person who dare not trust anyone
- because you know they cannot trust you.
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