I would like to get engaged

Donna wrote:

My boyfriend and I have been together almost three years (October 28) We are now living together. My problem is he always talks as if we have a future (that is why or so he says he asked me to move in) but when I ask him about it he always says that were to young, I'm 19 and he's 20.

But I've told him that I wouldn't want to get married right away but I would like to get engaged. I know he loves me or else he wouldn't of stayed with me this long I just don't understand that if we are old enough to go against our church (were mormon) and our parents to move into gether why are we to young to get engaged?

Dear Donna

Do you really want to get engaged, or are you simply trying to force him to make a commitment?

It sounds to me like you have a poor relationship, and rather than face that, you are trying to dominate him.

Won't work; you'll drive him away.

And if 'being engaged' is so important - why didn't you sort this all out before you moved in with him?