Am I Too Ugly?

Faith wrote:

I am 36 years old and the sad fact is that I have never had a relationship with a man. Men have always said that I am too ugly.

I don't want to die a virgin and am thinking of finding some guy who will take money from me to just have sex with me. That is not the way I want it but it looks like that is my only option. Why do men only want women who look like Brittany Spears?

I am just a normal girl looking for a normal boy to start as friends and who knows it may turn into something else. I am not unrealistic about the type of guy I am looking for.

I am not looking for someone who has lots of money and is Mr. America. I just want someone who likes to have fun and knows what is happening in the world. It is just so depressing for me to realize that no one wants to be with me.

It is not like I never take a shower or just wear dirty clothes all the time. If you could give me some advice as to how I can accept my fate I would like that.

Dear Faith

It's hard to advise, because you do not tell me enough .. Do men really say you are too ugly? Is there a problem with your appearance?

Are you very shy?

Many people have your kind of fears, but by your age, they are usually a little clearer about the problem.

Many of us go through life without the 'perfection' you see in models, film stars and TV personalities - of both sexes. You look at the average couple with small children , when time, sleepless nights and lack of makeup reveal the true selves ... and you might wonder why the human race carries on.

But see the same couple at a party, and all is clear. Beauty (a) is only skin deep and (b) is in the eye of the beholder.

Forget sex, and review your friendships. if you have good friends of the opposite sex, anything is possible.

But first, look in that mirror and decide what, if anything is the problem - and what needs doing about it. Don't be afraid to discuss these matters with trusted firneds, that's what they're for.