Wife has lost interest in sex
I've been married over 7 years. The first two years our sex life
The last five years it has been the same, she don't touch me and
don't let me play with her. She just says do it, and thats it. We
use to have sex almost every night but now it is once every week and
a half to two weeks.
I love to do oral on her but she will not let me and she does not
do it for me. We use to but she stopped it. I know I am probably not
a good lover but she want teach me or show me what she wants.
I have tried to talk to her several times about this but she want
listen. I know she is not cheating and I do not want to cheat either.I
need help, this has got me real depressed.
I love my wife and want to make her happy, but she is making me feel
like I am not a man, I need to feel wanted. Please help.
Lack of sex can become a huge issue, but the solution is unlikely
to be in the bedroom.
You need to look at the marriage as a whole, and consider what has
changed. You do not mention, for example, whether you have children
or not - or if that's an issue.
But that is but one example. You need to find out, and first you
need to talk. Not about sex, but about the marriage; not in the bedroom,
but somewhere safe and comfortable for you both.
If I am wrong, and it is just a sex thing, it still needs to be discussed,
but not at the time - there's already enough tension. If you cannot
resolve it between you, do consider confidential counselling. Do also
ask her to consider whether it's a medical issue; if she's getting
pain, a discharge, or has period or miscarriage problems, she may
need to get a thorough check up.
Please Note: I am NOT a physician, and any
'health advice' should NOT be taken to be "Medical Advice"
- because it is not - my aim is to give you a few possibilities to be
thinking about, and some general 'common sense' advice - if my advice
says see a doctor, then see a doctor!