He won't say yes or no

Carole wrote:

I really like this boy and I see him everyday I have even asked him out that was four days ago he keeps saying he'll give me his answer later but later never comes.

I'm kind of bigger then him in waist size is this his way of saying no?

I'm I really like him but I'm afraid of getting hurt. Please help me I don't know what to do.I'm so confused.

Dear Carole

There are two very separate problems here - your only confusion is to mix them up together.

First, if you've asked him out, either he's interested or he's not. If he's too stupid to be able to say "yes" or "no", I kind of wonder what you see in him. Move on - if he said yes now, you'd be confused forever, believe me. Tell him to come back in a year or two.

Second, you say "I'm kind of bigger then him in waist size". I'm guessing here, but I reckon this is code for you are concerned about your weight. If so, the first, and essential, step is to be able to look yourself in the mirror and say "I have a weight problem"

I'm sorry, but to deal with a problem, first you must accept there is one - and that means being honest with yourself.

The next step is to find out if the problem is real, and if so, how serious - you know, I don't. If it's hard, talk to Mom, or someone else you trust, and make a plan.

If - and maybe you don't - but if you have a weight problem, chances are you can do something about it. but the first step is to understand and respect your body and yourself. There's often a reason to deceive others - but never one to deceive yourself!

Don't let some cowardly boy humiliate you!

Good Luck!