In love at work ...

Chas wrote:

Ok, I'm in love with someone I work with. She is five years older than me and not seeing anyone. The problem is, as far as I can tell from her, she has no feelings for me, at least not in the way I would wish.

I'm friendly with her and she is with me. We're simply collegues. Everytime I try to move our friendship on by talking to her I clam up or start babbling - which has never happened to me before. Also, I'm afraid that if I did try to tell her how I feel it would make work uncomfortable for both of us.

I know this is a ridiculous problem and I should just try to forget about it, but I can't. It's not a crush, I'm in my 20s now and have experienced all that stuff already. It's not just hormonal lust either.

This is different because it won't go away - it's there permanently. I really do believe I've i've found the woman I want to be with for the rest of my life, but I don't think she feels the same way. Help.

Dear Chas

Thank Heavens she doesn't feel the same way.

One babbling idiot is quite enough, isn't it?

You don't even know her; you've hardly spoken a rational word, and you are telling me you've "found the woman I want to be with for the rest of my life".

If that's not a crush, pray tell me what is a crush?

Get real. Forget all this riding off into the sunset stuff and make friends. Get involved / get her involved in work social stuff. Get to know her. Talk to her.

All things are possible; but miracles sometimes need help!