I want closure!
Will wrote:
You know how women are good at platonic relationships?
Well I must be their prime target. Throughout high school I was always
involved in sports and activities, and never had time for girls. When
I started college, I got to know some really great girls, ones that I
became very close with, therefore, ending all possibilities of romantic
relationships.
This happened (happens) to every girl that I meet. I am too shy to let
them know how I feel about them, and when I finally feel close enough
to tell them, the very fact of telling them would most likely ruin the
friendship. It is a bit of a confidence problem. I don't even have the
courage to say 'hi', or smile at a cute stranger, nevermind start a conversation
with them. I need help.
There is a second part to this problem. I fell in love, not in lust,
with my best friend. I met her in my first month of college, and we became
really really close friends. She is the only girl I've had strong feelings
for, ever. I actually gained enough courage to finally tell her, (in an
email, of course) but she said she didn't feel the same. I didn't say
"I love you, please marry me" but I merely confessed how I felt
about her, asking her how she felt.
I still haven't talked to her about this in person, but it is completely
my fault about not bringing it up. I am having problems moving on, because
1. Its hard for me to develop relationships into romantic ones and
2. I truly believe she is the one for me.
What should I do? Finally talk to her in person and gain some closure,
or leave the matter alone until she feels comfortable about discussing
it?
Thanks for any help.
Dear Will
It's a joy to meet someone as self obsessed as you are.
How dare you declare your love by email, then claim that you are
"having touble moving on". You have closure, Will;
she said she didn't feel the same
she said she didn't feel the same
she said she didn't feel the same
she said she didn't feel the same
Now, whether she's grateful to have had the opportunity to have rejected
you electronically is neither here nor there - tho' I'd guess she was
quite insulted.
Fact is, you gave it your best shot (Your choice), and she turned you
down. Live with, move on.
If you think you can salvage a friendship out of the rubble, start by
apologising, not harassing her or stalking her.
She's off limits. Get that into your head. Learn from it.
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