I'm in love with my 'close' friend
I have known this girl for about eight months and in that time period, we have
become very close friends, where she tells me anything she has problems with and
I do likewise.
The problem is, I have fallen in love with her, and would
have no worries about telling her how I feel about her except that she has a boyfriend
of about five months.
Do I tell her my feelings, as I feel I really need
to, even though this could damage our friendship if I do, I don't know. Or do
I somehow try and keep it to myself. Do you think if I tell her this could become
I want to see her happy. I just wish I could see that if
she was with me instead of her boyfriend. I don't know if she has any clue as
to how I feel. Not knowing what to do, need advice.
world needs more people like you; people who are prepared to live in a fantasy
world, ignoring reality if it dares to challenge the cosy little world you've
Your ability to self deceive is only beaten by your almost
You mention that she has a boyfriend; some might see
this as an issue; not you. You haven't even noticed whether it's a 'good' relationship
- is she happy? Are they a perfect couple ... or are they falling apart. It matters,
You've also failed to mention her feelings for you; you may well
be good friends, but has she shown any signs of wanting more? Have you even thought
about her feelings?
"I want to see her happy" you say - but offer
no clue as to why she might be happier with you than her boyfriend.
be honest - you have not fallen in love with her ... you've fallen in lust. Once
you've accepted that, the problem will look very different, and the answer will
be staring you in the face.