I want to lose my virginity
Penny wrote:
I want to lose my virginity with my boyfriend now at 14 but
my mom is makes a big deal about sex and says that im ging to regreat
it when im older!!
Can you tell the big things about sex!! I know about the
deseases but he hasn't lost his virginity either so I don't have to worry
about AIDS or any other diseases!! The only thing I'm worried about is
getting pregnant or regreting it but pregnancy is not that big of a deal
if I have protection!! pleaz help!! thanx
Dear Penny
Virginity is a weird thing; physically it is a very minor thing, but,
in most societies, it has become an important symbol.
Starting with the physical, there are four issues that come immediately
to mind; pain, bleeding, infection and pregnancy.
Most seem to experience pain - but often not a lot, and usually it's
brief. Similarly with bleeding; sometimes none or very little, occasionally
enough to be frightening. Very, very rarely enough to be a problem.
Disease is a real issue; there's no law says virgins don't carry HIV
- or other diseases. Though it is a 'low risk' - it's still a real one,
so a condom would be a good idea.
Pregnancy happens, to the nicest of people, and others. If you do not
want to get pregnant, then you have a responsibility to make sure you
don't!
But what about the regrets?
I'm not here to give moral lectures, but I'll suggest a few things to
think about - but it's your choice, and only yours.
In favour of giving away your virginity:
- it'll make him happy
- you'll be able to boast to your friends
- no more worrying
- it doesn't really matter
- you love him
- he's your man for life
- it'll be an event to talk about
- it gets in the way
- in some way, you'll be more 'adult'
In favour of holding on to your virginity:
- You have only one
- You may feel cheap and dirty afterward
- You may lose him
- He will talk about it
- It will not make him love you
- It will not make him loyal
- You may get pregnant
- You may catch more than a cold
- You'll never, ever, forget it
Different issues will matter to different people - and I'm sure I've
missed thousands - at the end of the day, you just have to think about
it carefully and decide what's important to you.
Good luck, whatever you decide.
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