He puts his Mom before ME
He and I have been engaged for about three years.
We do not plan to marry soon because we live in separate towns and I
want to let my sons finish school in their hometown and because Sam's
mother is elderly with a heart condition and she cannot drive, therefore
he feels obligated to stay close to her.
I have always felt that his mother controls him in a passive / aggressive
sort of way (although she is very sweet).
Recently a friend sent us duplicate e-mails asking a few questions to
help friends get to know friends better. One of the questions was ...What
is important to you? On this question I put .. my loved ones.
When Sam filled out the questionnaire and sent it to me .. I noticed
he listed (in this order) my mom, my sister, my daughter, and Kerry (me).
I was very upset. His daughter is grown and lives out of state.
He says I am overreacting. I think any grown man that lists his mother
first on an 'important to me list'...is a big momma's boy. I worry that
unless I can settle this in my mind, it will do irrevocable damage to
Am I overreacting??
Yes, you are.
If you are frustrated, impatient, tired of him, whatever, then have the
guts to say so, not pick a fight which "will do irrevocable damage
to our relationship" over something so silly.