Sex during separation
My wife and I seperated for approximately
8 months. we are now living back together
and trying to rebuild our marriage.
However I am having a problem dealing
with the fact that during our seperation
she had sex with several other men
and dated several more. During most
of of this time when we were apart
she was asking me to return home and
in all honesty I was having sex with
But now that I know that she did
and the fact that they are her co-workers
is really making me insecure. Especially
since they are all younger men than
myself (even though I too am younger
than my wife.)
How can I trust her not to have sex
with them again since she works in
a nightclub envirment with drinking
and partying. Help me should I just
straighten up and leave it alone knowing
that I was doing the same thing...and
if so how do I do it?
I sympathise. There's nothing worse
than resenting someone's behaviour
in the full knowledge you've done
the same. Or worse.
Remember she's going through exactly
the same experience. Or is she?
She's levelled with you, and you've
been suitably miffed. But have you
been honest with her? Why do I doubt
You haven't said why you broke up
- or why you are trying again. But
you know that unless you both start
thinking "we" and stop thinking
"me" ... it ain't going
It won't be easy, but don't just
start where you left off - start again
from zero - clean slate. Good Luck.