Is there hope for a no-hoper?
I have been married a little over two years. My husband left me in November
when I was eight months pregnant. He moved in with another woman for three
After being there for three weeks he called me and said he wanted to
work things out. I told him I wouldn't promise him anything.
We started to go to church and seeing our pastor. I thought things were
getting better. We moved back in together in March. He told me he never
cheated on me. I didn't really believe him.
Now I just found out that he has profiled himself on Yahoo.com and asking
for a discreet realationship with someone. Though he hasn't had any responses
yet. Anyway I feel used and that I never can trust him again.
I know I need to talk to him about this, but don't know how to start.
We have a five month old and his six year old son lives with us. He has
no idea that I know about what he did.
So I do I go about this? Or am I being to paranoid about this and try
to work it out. I just don't think he will ever change.
I admire your patience - and your courage. But there's a limit, and for
the sake of the kids, you need closure.
From what you tell me,
- He's a liar
- A philanderer
- A useless father
- And a saddo
But that's enough of his problems; let's look at your and the childrens.
You say you need to talk. Why? Unless you are indeed psychotic and a
pathological liar (which I doubt), we all know that you can talk util
you are pink in the face and he won't change.
Make plans, for you and the children, and then tell him. Don't negotiate,
tell him. Otherwise the pain will go on, and having ruined two women's
lives, it would be good to save the kids.
No, it won't be easy; use your faith to get through. But you won't save
his soul by destroying three others.