I want to leave home
I have a problem, I really love
my boyfriend and I want to move out
with him but he is not ready.
I am 23 and live at home with my
parents and I am really unhappy living
at home. This is because my parents
are alcoholics and get angry at me.
There is never any food in the fridge
and the house is always messy. We
are also studying and we have part
time jobs but not heaps of money.
I can't study at home as my bedroom
is near the tv room and want to move
out with him but he wants to wait
for years until we can afford to buy
What should I do seeing I am really
unhappy at home and want my own independence.
Hold on there, you'll help no-one
by creating another unhappy home.
You see, you have two problems, they
overlap, perhaps, but they're very
1. You are not happy at home. So
move out! At 23, you are old enough
to take control of your life, and
if home isn't where your heart is,
then go! That doesn't mean you have
to go from your parents to him - there
are other places to live.
Perhaps once you've placed a little
distance between you and the parents,
you'll be a tad more sympathetic to
their problems - perhaps they are
not happy either? Perhaps you could
2. You love the guy. Do you? or is
he your ticket to an easy life where
(again) someone other than you has
to keep the fridge filled?
I can only judge on what you've written
to me, but you come across as fairly
self centred. My suspicion is that
your boyfriend's instincts aren't
One step at a time.