Experimenting with sex
I just met someone and I am really
We usually don't have much to discuss,
but we like to be with each other.
He is a little older than me, but
not by much.
We have now become close and tell
each other intimate things and one
of the intimate things is sex. He
has a fascination with performing
oral sex on girls.
He thinks it's just the greatest
thing. I'm not really into it, I've
never had it done to me. I'm sort
of nervous, I'd like to experience
it but I don't want to rush it.
I don't want him to feel rejected.
Should I explain this to him or should
I go and let him do this "favor" to
me and just see what it's like?
I am a virgin so I don't know much
about it. The whole reason why I am
nervous is because I am very modest
about my body, I find everything wrong
with it and I don't want him to be
disappointed in what I have to offer.
This is something I think would be
hard to tell him (now that I'm thinking
about it). I am open to suggestions.
You are asking a very big question,
much bigger than 'oral sex'
One huge part of it, which is for
you to make your path, is the 'moral
issue' of whether it's 'right' to
be doing it - or thinking about it.
I can't help you with your own values,
but I do suggest you think about it,
especially if he is older and more
exerienced than you.
Be sure you want to do it.
Second, if you are thinking of experimenting,
do it for the right reasons, not because
he's making you feel guilty in refusing.
There's only one first time for everything,
and you cannot undo it. Don't waste
Be sure he's the one you want to
do it with.
Third, one thing, in this life, frequently
leads to another; if you do it, and
you enjoy it, you could easily make
decisions you might later regret.
You make the rules - and make them
in advance. If he cares for you, he'll
understand your need not to rush -
or take risks.
Be sure he respects you and you
trust him. Be very sure.
Finally, it is extremely unlikely
that there's anything about you're
body that will lead to embarassment,
rejection or any other negative feeling
- it's a little known fact that virtually
every male on the planet is compatible
with virtually every female, should
they chance to meet (not a theory
I recommend testing).
Everyone (almost) experiments with
sex at some time in their lives -
the trick is in the timing. Please
be very, very selfish; there's
plenty more men, if he won't follow