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Experimenting with sex

Yasmin wrote:

I just met someone and I am really into him.

We usually don't have much to discuss, but we like to be with each other. He is a little older than me, but not by much.

We have now become close and tell each other intimate things and one of the intimate things is sex. He has a fascination with performing oral sex on girls.

He thinks it's just the greatest thing. I'm not really into it, I've never had it done to me. I'm sort of nervous, I'd like to experience it but I don't want to rush it.

I don't want him to feel rejected. Should I explain this to him or should I go and let him do this "favor" to me and just see what it's like?

I am a virgin so I don't know much about it. The whole reason why I am nervous is because I am very modest about my body, I find everything wrong with it and I don't want him to be disappointed in what I have to offer.

This is something I think would be hard to tell him (now that I'm thinking about it). I am open to suggestions.

Dear Yasmin

You are asking a very big question, much bigger than 'oral sex'

One huge part of it, which is for you to make your path, is the 'moral issue' of whether it's 'right' to be doing it - or thinking about it. I can't help you with your own values, but I do suggest you think about it, especially if he is older and more exerienced than you.
Be sure you want to do it.

Second, if you are thinking of experimenting, do it for the right reasons, not because he's making you feel guilty in refusing. There's only one first time for everything, and you cannot undo it. Don't waste it.
Be sure he's the one you want to do it with.

Third, one thing, in this life, frequently leads to another; if you do it, and you enjoy it, you could easily make decisions you might later regret. You make the rules - and make them in advance. If he cares for you, he'll understand your need not to rush - or take risks.
Be sure he respects you and you trust him. Be very sure.

Finally, it is extremely unlikely that there's anything about you're body that will lead to embarassment, rejection or any other negative feeling - it's a little known fact that virtually every male on the planet is compatible with virtually every female, should they chance to meet (not a theory I recommend testing).

Everyone (almost) experiments with sex at some time in their lives - the trick is in the timing. Please be very, very selfish; there's plenty more men, if he won't follow your rules.

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