Can I trust my Dad?
My parents have been divorced for
about 10 years and I live with my
mom. Don't get me wrong I chose to.
My parents shared me and my sister
for a long time, every other week
My dad has always been cruel to my
sister and I, but yet he claims to
want us. I've been in court rooms
almost all my life. I'm 16 and my
sister is 18 so it's over for her,
but I've been forced to 17 counsellors.
I hadn't even heard from my dad for
three years until last year. We started
to write each other letters, but we
went to court again and he brought
them up. He plays games like that,
every time we start to trust him.
Any way this time he bought us a computer
and has started to e-mail me. He used
to do the things I liked about him
Like fish and hunt. I would like
to do those thing again, but I don't
know if I can trust him ever again.
I need your help. Can you give me
You've clearly got a lot of unresolved
issues, both of you; like you, I'd
like to think that he deserves one
But I doubt it. Why?
Because so much of your letter is
about material things; computers,
fishing ... you have the rest of your
life for them; you need him because
he's your father, not for what he
gives you. And you know that, of course
you do - but you're avoiding the real
issues. I don't blame you.
Ther is one piece of hope in all
this. You say it's over for your sister
... it will be for you soon, too.
If you do decide to give him one
more chance, remind him, repeatedly,
that the time is approaching when
you are completely free; it's up to
him to make it work now - or he just
might not get that chance again.
Good Luck; whatever you decide, don't
make any promises, take it steady.