I turn really, really red
When I'm in the center
of attention I turn red and than I mean
really really red.
Because of this I'm
afraid to speak up in class and in groups
of people. Please help, this is really
There's no easy answer
Most people flush to
some extent when embarassed; some more
than others, some it's almost a medical
condition. Either way, there's no quick
shortcuts to stopping it.
It's part of who you
are, and, though I know you won't believe
this, it really doesn't matter. Even those
who tease you will have moved on to something
In most cases, it's
a matter of confidence. So there's some
things you can do.
Volunteer to speak
early - that way, you get it over with,
you might get to choose what you talk about,
and the terror doesn't build up as you
try to avoid being called on.
Make a point of speaking
in small groups where you feel safe; this
helps to familiarize yourself with the
experience, and makes it less of an issue
for other people (so less teasing).
On another level, practise
speaking. Make eye contact with yourself
in a mirror, speak slowly, clearly, from
And always remind yourself
"This is what I am; I'm no better
or worse than anyone else" - And always
make eye contact - that way, you are speaking
to one person, and only one person.
It will get easier
- but it will not go away completely, any
more than your eyes will change colour.