Will I win custody claim?
My kids have lived
with me all their lives - A 6 year old
girl and 5 year old twins - a boy and a
girl. Now that I'm married and my husband
and I decided for various reasons to pursue
custody through the courts.
I don't have the rosiest
of pasts, but I am a decent human being,
and in spite of being a bit selfish from
time to time, try to be the best parent
that I know how. I love my children and
the remote thought of them going to live
in Florida with their bio-unit (thats all
the jerk is) just eats me alive.
The bio-unit actually
intends to fight me in court after I've
had the kids all this time. The sad part
is that if I actually thought he was the
better choice I would consider other options,
but , I guess what I'd like to know in
your opinion is that since the bio-unit
has had only very limited contact with
the children (his choice) and they have
lived with me, even though I've made some
mistakes in my past - two DUIs and children
youth has been called on me before but
the visits were unfounded.
Do you think that any
judge would consider breaking up the only
family these children have ever known.
Thank you ahead of time for listenening
and I'll be axiously awaiting a reply.
Most places, courts
have to decide such matters "In the
Best Interests of the Children". So
they'll look at both claims - and, of course,
could remove the kids from both - but they
haven't before, despite your record, so
you can pretty well rule that out.
I don't know enough
to see where the balance lies, but I do
have concerns about what you have not said.
You brush off your
reasons - but ask yourself why you are
doing this. The father may have had little
contact - but it looks like you are trying
to cut him out entirely. It's quite likely
he loves those kids - and you've forced
him into action.
You mention 'unfounded'
investigations - but there'll be a file
behind that; will that be held against
He may be simply a
"Bio-Unit", but if you want to
win this one, you'll have to do better
than insult the opposition.
You'll need to think
about what is in the kids' best interests.