Please Please Me
I've been married
for 16 years and I'd like to tell my husband where and what pleases me. How can
I do that without offending him?
I guess you've
heard all the obvious answers already, and I guess it's no reassurance to be told
that your problem is so very common - even the most gentle, caring men can be
almost totally selfish in the matter of pleasing their partner.
to use this selfishness; think about what you want - but describe it to him in
a way that sounds like what he wants. Won't always work, won't always be easy;
but you'll surprise yourself. And once you've had a bit of practice, you'll both
get the benefit.
What I'm saying is be selfish yourself. The only other
tip I can offer is timing - Pick your moment.
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