Fair weather friend
am in High School. I have one friend that
I do things with outside of school. She
goes to her dads house every other weekend
so we only have two weekends a month to
spend with each other. But I can never
get a hold of her to make any plans.
I call she says she will call me back but
she never does. At lunch I never get a
chance to talk to her because she and her
new friend go off and talk with boys. I
am very disappointed. She is my only real
friend. That is why I need her.
I want to have other good friends but I
don't know how. I am afraid that people
will think that I am no fun. At home my
brother and my parents are constantly telling
me that I am antisocial. I want to make
friends but I don't know how. And I don't
know if I should give up on her or keep
on trying. What should I do? Thanks for
Dear Oonah Read what
you've written. Imagine you heard someone
else say it - She's no friend, is she?
And you don't need her. We all need 'people'
- some more than others, but none of us
need people who don't respect us.
I know it's difficult,
but there's nothing wrong, within reason,
with being a loner. But if you do feel
you need people, then join something, do
something, get a job.
There's always people,
and the less you try, the easier it is
to make friends. Be interested in people
- try to see what makes them tick - you'll
soon realise the ones who interest you.