Help Me With Controlling Husband
How can I deal with a controlling husband?
He just complains about everything, nothing
I do is right, he's far from romantic,
I can't even get a kiss without him shoving
me off. He wasn't like that before we got
married (maybe a little bit) but he was
Now sometimes I just want to leave and
get a divorce, but I've also made a promise
to God to love this man. I'm hurting for
advice that would help my relationship,
children are also involved.
No easy answers
- but you knew that. First, be sure that
he is not right to complain. It's unlikely
that you are that awful - but it's also
unlikely that he is entirely in the wrong,
isn't it? If there are things you should
change, that'll help.
the children and your promise to one side
for a moment, what do you want? What are
the chances you'll ever get it? 10%? ...
20%? ... 70% You need to be really honest,
it ain't going to happen, you must think
about the children. How are they affected,
now, up to now ... and what about their
you know what that promise means to you
- but I'd suggest you didn't promise to
be a doormat for life, did you? And I doubt
your God wants that for you.
I know this
sounds pessimistic. That's because your
letter reads to me as if you've decided
you are going nowhere fast. And he's unlikely
to change. And kids come first, they
are the future.
may be a positive side - if you reckon
things can change, then talk to him, change
what you can, and get someone outside of
the marriage to help (from the Church,
maybe? someone who won't take either 'side').
Most marriages are worth a try, honest!!