There is a man I have been interested
it for the past two years. Anyway he was
in a 12yr relationship. He is now getting
a divorce and has bought my mobile home
since I had to move out so we have talked
a lot more in this past month than in the
last two years.
Today he came by work to sign the final
papers and we were chit chatting outside,
first he shook my hand good bye then i
made another comment and we talked a little
more than he said he had to go get some
stuff from his ex's house before she threw
them out and squeezed my upper arm as he
Is this a sign of interest?? My friend
says I need to make the first move because
his whole life has been around controlling
What do you think? He got involved with
his wife when he was 20 and she ended up
pregnant about two months after and has
stayed with her I believe because of his
daughter whom he adores. Please help I
will see him again in the next few days
and need to know if I should make a move.
I am very shy and self conscious since
I am about 60 lbs overweight, and it petrifies
me to think i will make a fool of myself.
When you're shy, it's tempting to let others
make your decisions - but you must never
let them do your thining for you. You don't
know this man, except through rumour and
tittle-tattle, so your priority is to get
to know him; also, he's been through a
divorce, never easy for anyone, whatever
All this is
saying "take it very, very slowly".
There's no first move to make, just
yet. Just keep in touch with him, on
a friendly basis, and see what happens.
Anyway, if he's that 'controlled' you don't
really want to scare him, do you?
thing; forgive me if I've misread this;
you sound a little lonely, and very concerned
about your weight. My only worry here is
that you must keep your feet firmly on
the ground; don't let wishful thinking
take over. Do think about getting to places
where you'll meet people in more 'normal'
circumstances. And if you are concerned
with your weight, be positive, make a realistic
resolution. And keep a diary.