My Dad's a Jerk
My dad is a jerk. He is manipulative
and condescending. Sometimes he even calls
me up just to yell at me and call me names.
He is not understanding, he expects me
to be superwoman. No matter what I do,
he doesn't seem to realize that im 20,
intelligent and artistically talented -
he thinks I need or deserve his every bit
of advice, name calling, whatever.
His tone of voice when giving compliments
always seem insincere and he contradicts
them later. It seems like he will do anything
to have me obey him even lie to me or pretend
he finally decided not to be a jerk in
order to infiltrate my life.
your problem very clearly; now all you
need to do is prove that you are right,
and he's wrong. If you are still at home,
move out. Prove you can survive and
If you have
already moved out, and you are still getting
the phone calls, write this down, paste
it on the phone, and read it every single
time he starts: "I'm sorry Dad,
I'm happy to hear from you, but I don't
need this. I'm hanging up now."
to make a plan and be cool calm and
above all consistent. Once he knows
he can't control you - and he might lose
you - he'll learn, or not. But every time
you let him see that he's got you rattled,
he's won. It's your life, take it back.