Abused: Is it O.K. to hate?
My dad has been sexually, emotionally,
mentally, and verbally abusing me since
I can remember. He is out of the house
now, because I reported him. I'm getting
counseling now, but its not nearly enough.
I guess my question is, is that is it O.K.
for me to hate my dad?
Ever since he's been out of the house,
I've also been more angry, aggressive and
I'm afraid that I might end up winding
myself into great trouble. There's also
always the possibility of hurting others.
I make my mom cry almost everyday because
i've also begun to lie a lot. I won't hang
on your advice, but can you give me any
I doubt there's a living soul who would
- or could - blame you for hating. And
even if we all said 'it's wrong to hate',
you'd still hate.
survivors hate; it's OK. In fact, it's
And I mean
that. But - and it's a big but - do not
let hate consume you, because hate won't
hurt him, hate hurts you. For now,
hate makes you feel that tiny bit better,
and it gives you the strength to move on.
that hate to put distance (emotional
distance, maybe real distance?) between
to move on in yourself; never forget it
- you won't - but start to separate it
off from your life.