Manager likes Employee
I'm the Manager of
a store and I really like one of my Female
employees. She is a quiet girl and seems
to be a little shy. We have casual conversations
and have an easy going Manager employee
I would be interested
in getting to know her better, but am concerned
because I'm her boss. The last thing that
I would want is for her to become uncomfortable
around me or worse yet have a sexual harrassment
issue come up.
What would you suggest
On the face of it, it's between the pair
of you. But in the real world, you have
a big problem. Look at the Angles:
She, shy, quiet, respects authority. The
fact you're asking suggests you are sensitive.
So she's comfortable with you, you give
So does she have any other feelings toward
Other staff may be quick to see you acting
differently to one person, and sadly, there
may be one (or more - you don't say how
big a store) who will try and take advantage.
If that fails (or succeeds) the rumours
might start spreading, and you could lose
respect - and if the one gets frightened
and manipulated, you could lose more.
And You. I don't think for one moment
you are consciously doing wrong (if you
were, why write to me?). But you are in
a position of power over a shy, trusting
Are you misinterpreting your temptation
as a genuine interest from her? She may
like you as a boss, but never have considered
anything else for one split second.
Sounds awful; and there's probably worse
could be said. But many of the strongest
relationships in the world started at work
- this might be one of them.
So take it real slow; respect her feelings,
keep aware of your feelings and how things
might look to others (You have a store
to manage!) And see what happens.