Boss's Babe in my face
Hey Anon, For nine
years I've worked for a married couple.
While she is still part owner of the company,
she's left to pursue other dreams. Her
husband is now in total control, and has
hired a girlfriend to help him out (in
more ways than one!).
He's 44, she's 24.
They are constantly hanging all over each
other, which was bad enough for office
morale, but now she also receives extra
special treatment; two hour lunches with
him, run of everything, creative control
over things the rest of the employees used
to have input on ... and we're frustrated
Should I let him know
I think his relationship is inappropriate?
Should I quit? Should I just try to ignore
this and plod ahead, hoping this will end
Hard to help, as a
lot depends on the 'office politics' -
you know better than I. So I can only raise
a few thoughts, then it's down to you.
First, you can bet
your bottom dollar that things will settle
down; sure, they may split up, but even
if they don't, the relationship will slow
down, almost certainly.
So then, you have to
decide, will you get on with 'her'; if
she stays, she'll grow in authority, and
expect the same obedience he gets. Will
she pull her weight and earn respect, or
rely on him to back her up? You need to
decide what's most likely.
Finally, does it really
matter; have you all really lost the atmosphere
you once had - or has she actually united
the staff as never before? Are things really
different, or is it just that he flaunts
his trophy at you all?
These are important
issues, because you cannot actually "do"
anything. Unless they are dangerous, deviant
or illegal, anything you say will almost
certainly be used against you (put yourself
in his shoes for a second).
And do you want to
leave? Sorry; not much help, I know.
But making the best
of it, rather than making war, is probably
most likely to make things better.