Rape, Time & Self Respect

Denise wrote:

I'm scared. I was raped over ten years ago. My problem is I never went to counselling or anything like that ... it's been over five years since I had a boyfriend or even a guy that I could call my friend.

I could tell anyone every minute of that night. Am I normal? I don't want to go through that again. but I do miss the companionship that I did have when times were good. please help me.

Dear Denise

You are perfectly normal. But you do need help. Even after ten years, it is not too late to get counselling, and you owe it to yourself.

I don't know enough about you to know where best to advise, but review all the possibilities; religious, women's support, specialist counsellor, psychological, analyst - there's plenty of options, and most of them should be accessible regardless of your budget, but do take the time to find something right for you. Good Luck